The Boundaries of Self - Sam Harris x David Whyte

Thank you to my brother in law for sharing this beautiful conversation. This is the kind of conversation that stays with you long after it ends. Rather than analysing or interpreting, I want to simply share some of the words that struck me. They speak for themselves.

“You cannot enter any world for which you do not have the language.”

“Friendship is characterised, real friendship is characterised by a total absence of pretence.”

“And a good marriage and a good friendship is a product of a willingness to be fully vulnerable, but also to find the right person with whom to be fully vulnerable.”

“Honesty is reached through the doorway of grief and loss. The fear of loss, in one form or another, is the motivator behind all conscious and unconscious dishonesties. All of us are afraid of loss, in all its forms.”

“Honesty lies in understanding our close and necessary relationship with not wanting to hear the truth.”

“Honesty is grounded in humility, and indeed in humiliation, and in admitting exactly where we are powerless.”

“When someone says, ‘Can I be honest with you?’ You should always say no. Because they have a piece of ammunition which they want to fire at you.”

“Never explain. Your enemies won’t believe you and your friends don’t need it.”

You'll notice you can only listen to the first 45mins of the podcast - you'll need a subscription to listen to the whole thing orrrr you could buy the book! which is what I did!

Will report back soon!