Leah's Share: The Trouble with Friends
- Jan 26
- 1 min read
Lovely Lea shared this piece in her application for TTA. It explores the challenges of friendship and how those relationships evolve over a lifetime.
I could relate to so much of what she describes. One sentence in particular made me think “yes, exactly”:
“A friend who used to discuss things with you simply to work through them stops doing so, and updates you only on definitive good news, never the bad, the ugly, or the in-progress.”
It’s an unusual share, but it gave me a lot to think about. It made me wonder whether simply being aware of these subtle shifts might help us navigate friendships with a bit more care and generosity.
What I loved most was the honesty and the complexity of it all. It felt refreshing to see someone name things that are rarely spoken about.
Thanks for sharing. I think this article is good at being honest about a lot of feelings that develop as you interact with friends over long periods of time. At the same time I found its general tone so callous that it felt hard for me to sympathize with the author at times. For example, the way she dicusses her "crisis friends" just felt so uncaring. I wonder if this attitude and attempt at categorizing friends into such reductive types is a self-fulfilling prophecy that would lead someone to being a worse friend than they otherwise could be.