Joe Keohane on the benefits of talking to strangers
- Mar 9
- 1 min read
So much to share from this talk. A few Think Again moments for me:
The idea of the “lesser mind”. I’d never come across that before.
The reminder that humans are hyper-cooperative. The notion that life among strangers is new and beyond our capacity is seriously challenged.
One barrier mentioned, particularly by Brits, was the fear of saying too much about oneself. That really surprised me. How else do we build genuine connection?
The strong messages we absorb from childhood not to trust people we don’t know. No wonder it sticks.
The “exercise” metaphor. We’re not bad at talking to strangers, we’re simply out of practice.
Studies suggesting working-class people tend to be more attentive and engaged in these interactions, while more affluent people can be more distracted or self-focused. That question of why is fascinating.
The interview also explores the idea that friction makes us social, and that in countries without strong central institutions, people become far more skilled at engaging with strangers because they have to.
I’ll leave you with Theodore Zeldin’s theory: "you can only understand the world if you maximise the number of people you’ve interacted with".
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